Online dating guides are everywhere these days and following closely behind are commercial online dating websites determined to suck you in and take your money leaving you with nothing at the end of it but a low self-esteem.
The worst thing is, you can easily fall prey and get hooked with online dating and end up spending way too much time on these websites, trawling through the countless number of profiles and photographs. The real truth of it all is that (and you can ask anyone who has been through it), the majority of people never find love through the internet. You do have a very small minority who “get lucky” but most people just end up wasting a lot of money, and most importantly..time. Time which you could have spend joining a club or a dancing class (for instance) to find real people whom you can connect with.
However, if you are really hard-headed with going with the online dating route, some advise is in order:
First of all, do not spend too much time on it. Spend a maximum of a few minutes a day sending out private messages or e-mails, and try to make contact with potential dates. Most of you have a full-time job so don’t risk your job by spending the whole day on dating sites – keep things in perspective!
Most dating websites will require you to put in profile data so others can find you. A mistake made by most people is that they put in way too much information about themselves which is unnecessary. Not only is it unnecessary, the more information you provide, the poorer the impression you will create.
Put down only a few critical details about yourself like your age, location, background and one or two hobbies. Keep other details like your job vague. It is true in real life dating as well as online dating that people want to slowly “discover” little things about a potential mate, rather than having everything served up on a platter right at the start. Start with the entree, move to the main course, and end with desert (the best part)!
Be enthusiastic with your written profiles and most importantly with your contact messages. Both men and women prefer an up-beat person compared to a neutral or depressed sounding one. If someone asks you “Hi John, how are you?”, rather than reply with “I’m good thanks”..try “I’m feeling fantastic!”. By doing so, you already put yourself way ahead of the competition.
If you find someone you’re interested in, and the feeling is mutual, it’s best to set up a quick meeting with that person. Keep it brief (no longer than an hour or so). This date is for the sole purpose of you finding out more bit of information that is lacking from your online encounters. It will also allow you to decide whether you want to go ahead and see that person more or not, giving you a chance to back out easily. Meet that person for a quick coffee at a busy and central place. You’ll be sure to discover things about your date that you might have overlooked at the online dating website.